Let’s Get Real.

Dreadlocks Woman

Last night at a dinner party I had a bit of a conversation with a woman of color who is opposed to what I am doing. (Not this dreadlocked* beauty above – she loves it!) I get varying feedback, which will come up in posts throughout the eternity of this blog, but thought I should address some of my thoughts today – this warm, sunny #FollowFROday.

I am aware.

Very aware that the name and concept of my blog is jarring and provocative. I know the fact that I’m a white Jewish blonde running around town with a fro does not sit comfortably with all.

I know that women of color do not have the option of taking off their fro at night to have long, soft, blonde hair.

There is a ton of political and personal weight here. While many of my black friends are all for it, I have been advised against doing this altogether by others. I am aware.

Michelle Joni Fro

The thing about me is, though, I have always been misunderstood. Misunderstood by groups of friends, people who know me from afar, and even by myself. I have always had people who dislike me, who push back on my ideas, and who don’t appreciate me. As I learn to wean these negative forces out of my life and seek only the opposite, there is still an underlying inkling of comfort I feel from not being fully understood and accepted.

Omega Sirius Moon

Omega Sirius Moon, recording artist, with friend

The other more apparent element here is the racial sensitivity issue. The last thing I want to do is offend anyone. I have such love for human beings – as a whole and individually. If I could talk to new and interesting and different people all day, my life would be very rich.

Man Fro

The point is, and I take this verbatim from my first piece of random fan mail (Love ya, Kenny!)

Anyways, I really appreciated the honesty of your blog and saw it deeper than just “Hey I wear an afro”

I am in the process of creating more substance in my life and soul, and that’s all for me. I want people to have to dig a little bit harder to find it. If someone wants to take a look at my blog and judge me as racially insensitive, they did not go deep. Just like you can’t understand me as a person just by taking a look at me, I don’t want it to be that easy for my online self either.

Young black and Fab

Aja and Lea in the East Village

I’m not “The Fashionista Blog,” I am something far more obscure and unplaceable. Just like in real life.

Why do this whole self-blogging thing if not to hook and line in the exact people who are drawn to your energy and can SEE you – and like you – for exactly who you are? Even – and especially – if that person is ballsy enough to walk the political tightrope of wearing a symbol of someone else’s culture – because that was a genuine and profound and very real experience for her?

Talde Park Slope

Allison at Talde in Park Slope, who wanted to check out the blog on her iPad before agreeing to be photographed. She browsed around and said, “Yeah, this is cool.”

I have made it my business and duty to learn all I can about the culture from which I am borrowing, and its rich, empowering history. That is part of this journey too – a place I never would have otherwise had a real reason to go.

My beautiful natural haired black readers – my gorgeous weaves, dreads, relaxed, and shaved alike – I would love to hear any of your insight or suggestions so that I may become more and more sensitive as to what’s important to you. And THANK YOU for this gorgeous hairstyle!

Blur

PS. Check out the spotlight on Omega Sirius Moon in NYMag!

*CORRECTION! The woman featured in the first photo is not dreadlocked – those are Box Braids. “Poetic justice braids” in slang. Thanks Carolyn for your help!

148 thoughts on “Let’s Get Real.

  1. I like how you want to find a new understanding of a culture through doing something that the people of that culture find offensive and you just brush it off. Are you really that dense or were you really not trying to learn anything in the first place? Hell, you even made an entire post dedicated to how you’re being offensive but you’re just ignoring it because ‘They don’t understaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaand meeeeeeeeee’.

    So many people have been kind enough to TEACH you about what you probably would have learned had you gone about this whole ~cultural~ experience in a non-offensive way. The truth is, we’re not here to teach you, we’re not here to tell you what’s what. If you’re going to go around acting like a complete asshole, go ahead. Do it. But don’t cry because you feel BELITTLED or SAD. With every action comes an equal and opposite reaction. You want to be a racist (‘CAUSE CONGRATULATIONS, THAT’S WHAT YOU ARE)? Fine. There’s going to be some push back and people aren’t going to be so nice anymore.

    • You have noticed that not every person of color seems to have a problem with what she’s doing, right? Because if so, then your claiming that “the people of that culture find [it] offensive” is you being horribly egocentric. And if you haven’t then it makes you come off as ignorant. The fact that not everyone of that culture has a problem with it shows that it is wrong both factually and ethically to talk about “the people of a culture” thinking or feeling anything. People are individuals. All black people do not think alike. Nor do all white people, all jewish people, all any group you’d like to select.

      • Don’t attempt to derail the conversation by stating what’s obviously true… of course not ALL black people find this offensive. But, we can assume, based on the comments here, that many (including myself) DO.

        And let’s face it… this blog wouldn’t have received ANY attention at all, if it weren’t for the number of people (not just black) who find this flagrant abuse of iconography offensive. So offensive in fact, that we’ve all provided her with MANY reasons as to why…. and our opinions (and not just those of the black majority) should be taken seriously.

  2. The quality and passion of the comments on this post are thoughtful and personal– more so than Michelle deserves given her willful persistence to keep up a racist practice and deny accountability for her actions. It pains me to see the burden (once again) placed on people of color to have to intervene on her and play educator. Michelle, if you want to be an ally, learn to behave like one. Take off the Afro, check yourself, check your privilege, stop typing and just HEAR what these people are saying.

    Of possible interest:
    http://theangryblackwoman.com/2009/10/01/the-dos-and-donts-of-being-a-good-ally/
    http://whitepriv.blogspot.com/2010/02/10-ways-to-be-and-ally.html

  3. OMG, to the person who writes this blog, you are so clueless in so many levels, and such a bad photographer, not the best blog on the planet either… However, I don’t think you are mean intentioned or racist, you just though it was funny to wear an afro wig on a moment of stupidity and decided to make it public, but the problem is that it’s not funny! Specially to black women, since black hair, you know it’s a big topic on women of color. It’s not funny. And the “soft, long blond hair” comment… you r totally clueless my friend.

    • Yeah, that comment was… off. Afros can be long and soft. I think the thing that bothers me the most about this is the way she poses in photos when she’s wearing the afro. Gangsta leans and hand signs, posing provocotavely… why does she want to look like an asshole?

  4. “I know that women of color do not have the option of taking off their fro at night to have long, soft, blonde hair.” WTF you now this is so terrible to say. I am sure you are aware that black hair it’s very hard to mantain and kinda very sensitive subject among black women, do you know that?

  5. Okay so I’m white. I’m just gonna say that the first thing that you do when it comes to understanding another culture other then your own is…. listening! I see that you mean well but sometimes I feel like your responses come off as a little…. defensive. These people responding to you mean well too and honestly it is cool that people are responding to you and actually giving you different perspectives. All I’m gonna say is listen, listen, listen and respect and accept some of things people say to you. This is not a place to become defensive, we all get the jist that you mean well. Get over that fact that some of things that you are doing are offensive and listen and learn, this is very important especially if you are striving to be a more aware person. But also know that you will never ever truly understand what it is like to be a person of color in this country, probably this world at that matter. And that’s just the way it is. It is important that white people, myself, and you educate ourselves about oppression, past histories of our country and our own roles, as white people, that we play in oppression and white privilege. And I see that some people support what you do but listen to the people that offer there counterperspectives and take it seriously.

  6. I am also a privileged white person,* here to tell you you’re embarrassing the fuck out of us. Stop it. Stop it right now.

    You know, part of being “aware” means being willing to consider that you’re totally fucking wrong when the very people you’re appropriating/mocking tell you so. LISTEN to the criticism on this thread (that you yourself solicited). They are right. You are not. Game over – you are not going to get your cookie. Deal with it.

    You are not “misunderstood.” You are not “obscure.” You are not a special flower exempt from navigating these insidious systems of oppression and their effects on people just because you’re “aware” they exist and believe you have the right to play around with them for funsies using a fucking costume. You are an asshole. You’re HURTING PEOPLE with this Eat Pray Love enlightenment-via-cultural appropriation bullshit. You put the “vile” in “privilege.”

    You said yourself “the last thing I want to do is offend people.” Dude, the verdict’s in: you’re offending people. You can’t change this by arguing with them (that makes it worse, actually), taking pictures with random black folks, or whining that you’re not being intentionally offensive – intention doesn’t matter (although, in this case, your intention is pretty damn offensive too). You CAN change it by taking that fucking wig off, dismantling this blog, and shutting the fuck up.

    If you truly had such “love for human beings,” then you would BELIEVE THEM WHEN THEY TELL YOU YOU’RE BEING A RACIST, PRIVILEGEY SHITBAG, and, oh, I don’t know, maybe stop being a racist, privilegey shitbag?

    Gah, you ruined my day. You are the opposite of an aware, sensitive, enlightened lover of humanity. You are the worst. Please, please stop. I’m begging you.

    *A super fun part of my white privilege means I get to get real fucking pissed about stuff like this without being dismissed as oversensitive or irrational or reverse racist or misunderstanding or whatever idiotic accusations white people lob at POC who dare to object to their own marginalization, and I intend to use this privilege until shit like this blog ceases to exist or I run out of breath – whichever comes first.

  7. For love of all other Jews, STOP! You are embarrassing us.

    I’m not being snarky here. I am completely serious.

    While I am sure you don’t mean to be hurtful, you are just not getting it on any level. It is like you have completely closed your mind and refused to consider criticism.

    And as another Jew, I am just saddened. Now so many people will think of this absurdly privileged and offensive stunt when they think of Jewish women.

    And perhaps, outside your “Temple,” you have never encountered other Jews. But there are plenty of Jews of color and white Jews with some pretty substantive Jewfros SO why don’t you just ask them about their experiences if you are interested instead of acting like wearing a clownish wig gives you a scintilla of insight into the experiences of POC?

  8. I just want ot know why wehn you wear the wig there is a scowl. Not all black people are angry. It does some very much like a caricture looking at some of your picks.The black experience is only the experience you get as black. If you want to wear because you like it fine, but don’t try to make it as a relatable item to my race because it is not…it does nothing but reinforce an idea or ideology you have about us.

  9. please stop. whatever your intentions, your utter lack of awareness is astounding. if you do in fact care about racism, demonstrate that by stopping the ignorant/insulting public show and take some private time to educate yourself more deeply about racism and what antiracism actually look like (hint: it doesn’t have anything to do with wearing a costume!). engage in an antiracist training, be there with an open mind and listen–really listen. I suggest The People’s Institute for Survival and Beyond – Undoing Racism http://www.pisab.org.

  10. There is no need for me to put in my two cents on how offensive and ignorant this little fro’ wearing “experiment” is. Enough has already been said. However when I read the blog post and responses left by Michelle, questions/thoughts that came to mind were:

    1) The “experiment” is just a way to get traffic and readers to her blog. She stated that this blog was started less than 3 weeks ago and it seems she has been gaining a significant amount of attention because of it.

    2) Is she some sort of a psychopath? She doesn’t seem to understand why her actions are hurtful and offensive – because she is focused on getting her need to make it her “…business and duty to learn all I can about the culture from which I am borrowing, and its rich, empowering history.” She has an emotional need to justify her little experiment and wants Black people and other PoC to give her props for it. She attempts to make herself the victim and not accept responsibility for her actions because of the angry reactions she has gotten from the people she is offending. She also seems to have a grandiose sense of herself -“I am in the process of creating more substance in my life and soul, and that’s all for me. I want people to have to dig a little bit harder to find it.” She goes on further to state “I am something far more obscure and unplaceable. Just like in real life.” So, she wants readers to put in work to understand and get to know her. Yet she is not challenging herself to halt her actions and take a different approach to understanding a group of people, without coming across as an ass.

    3) I really have to question white people who go out of their way to show pictures of their black friends. I am also even more suspicious if you can count them. If human beings instead of race mattered more to her, she wouldn’t feel the need to have her Black friends validate her so-called learning experience. She would fully own her bullshit and the consequences of it without pulling her friends (whether they agree with her or not) into it.

    That is all.

  11. As a Jewish woman, I am thoroughly embarrassed by your actions. Being Jewish does not give you some special pass to say, “Hey. Jewish people haven’t had it all that easy, therefore I can clearly relate to and understand the Black experience, making it totally acceptable for me to get in touch with my inner…whatever…by purchasing a $5 Afro from a Halloween store.”

    I doubt I will get through to you, as I have seen many other people fail to get through to you. Perhaps you should look up the term “cognitive dissonance”. But you know that sinking feeling in the pit of your stomach that you get each time you see another negative comment? That’s your conscience trying to alert you to the fact the what you’re doing is hurtful and ignorant and wrong. It is not a shameful thing to stop this misguided “social experiment”, offer up a sincere apology, and use this moment as a supremely educational mistake. In fact, it would be the wise and brave and respectful thing to do. Stop being a voyeur. If you want to have a truly “vital” experience, go out there and ask questions and listen to the responses. And not questions like, “What do you think of my afro?”

    Let me put this another way. To learn something about someone who is different from you, no matter what the difference is, you have to open up a constructive dialogue. To stick a fake Afro on your head and call it enlightenment is already incredibly assumptive and alienating. It puts a halt to the conversation before it can even begin. I guarantee that you would hate it if a Christian woman put on a fake nose and then went around talking about how powerful and rejuvenated she feels with her big new fake nose, explaining how she wants to understand what it means to be a Jewish person and could she please take a picture of you for her blog? You would hate it because someone is making an superficial assumption about your appearance (Jews have big noses) and then using that assumption to invade your space, to co-opt your identity. Especially an aspect of your identity that perhaps has been fraught with historical and modern discrimination. Even worse, that person is then claiming that they can relate to you? How demeaning. And as a Jewish person who has been discriminated against by Christians for centuries? Here you are trying to live your life and some Christian chick is going to slap on a big nose and then tell you that she “gets” it? That she loves wearing her big nose out to Bat Mitzvahs? You would be enraged by her arrogance and ignorance and oblivious exploitation of an already touchy power dynamic. I have no doubt that it would infuriate you.

    Look, you work in fashion, it’s your job to evaluate how things look on the surface. But the tricky thing about culture and discrimination and privilege is that they don’t live on the surface. They have layers and nuances that can only be drawn out through investigation, education, and analytical thinking. Putting on an Afro and calling yourself enlightened is like putting on a cross and calling yourself a born again Christian. A symbol is just that, a representation of something deeper and much more profound. What you are doing, in the hopes of getting people to “find their own Afro” (what does that even mean?) misses the point entirely and it does absolutely nothing in the way of moving all of us to a more aware and equitable place. Take some time to sincerely evaluate your motivations and what your actions are actually saying, NOT what you intend for them to say. Perhaps you’ll at last see that this whole thing is complete and utter meshugas.

  12. I think what you are doing is great! I mean you are doing something that people will think and talk about and that is always something even if the reaction is bad or good. I understand why people are so mad and complaining but in the same time I also think it’s an overreaction. Black women are wearing wigs and other stuff to make their hair look “good” because of “the society” to look like a caucasian woman as possible, why couldn’t a caucasian women perm her hair curly or wear a big afro? I think the argument about the black history and the mark that has left is so old I mean the natural movement is getting bigger everyday so why hold grudges? /eroupean/african reader.

    • The presence of White people as the dominate race in society forces any person not like them to try to become them. So her existence as a person in America forces all of that. And you trying to shirking her responsibility and privilege for her is a prime example of that.

      I don’t think you understand that some women have hair textures that when worn completely naturally would be seen from a White culture perspective as “unprofessional”. So many women are going natural because up until quite recently the few products for Black hair were actually not good for Black hair. The ‘natural movement’ shows that Black hair is not ugly or bad or unmanageable or a political statement. Any discussion of ‘natural hair’ obviously doesn’t refer to White, Asian, and most Latino people because their hair is rarely chemically altered (save dyes).

      • I actually do understaind, I just went natural from wearing a texturatioer/perm (don’t know the spelling) I also used to think that my hair would look “unproffesional” in others eyes. But I still think that the society is opening their eyes and the though of “unproffesional” hair is getting weaker as the natural movement is getting bigger in todays society.

    • First of all, Black women don’t wear weaves to look white or even be “accepted”. There tons of Black women who have naturally straight, curly or whatever kind of hair we all do not wear afros. And perming your hair and weaves are is not a Black thing all women do. How ignorant of you

  13. “long, soft, blonde hair”…… My afro-textured hair is soft and long and if I want to I can dye it blonde. Your so obliviously offensive…its insane.

  14. I’m curious – if you’re (were) so “aware” of what you were doing and how it was actively hurting others, why did you choose to continue it? You attribute it to people misunderstanding you – did you ever think that it was because you were the one misunderstanding your actions on people? That it wasn’t because the offendees didn’t “get” you, but because you were acting in a truly offensive manner?

    Your apology post does not really seem to be apologizing for anything; to me, it seems odd that that apology (if you want to call it that) came much later, after people were already telling you how much it hurt. It really comes off as ignorant and uncaring when you say “I didn’t MEAN to offend! People just don’t get me!” and then continue hurtful behaviour after the fact. It just seems like kindergarten behaviour to me – we’re taught (or should have been taught) that if you hurt someone, you apologize, try not to repeat the offensive behaviour, and move forward. Instead what you did was apologize (sort of), but insist it’s the offendees fault for being offended (instead of taking responsibility for hurtful actions) and then continuing offensive behaviour.

    You need to check your privilege (that means not wearing your afro), issue a full, sincere apology accounting for your actions – none of this “but I didn’t mean to! Don’t be offended! I still have good qualities!”. Yes, we’re sure you have good qualities – nobody said you didn’t. But when you are trying to defend yourself and your feelings first and foremost, instead of trying to remedy the feelings of those you’ve offended, then your apology does not come off as sincere. You were offensive, and you shouldn’t tell others how to react to your own offensive behaviour.

    Instead, learn from the experience to become a better person. With your privilege, you should not participate in claiming things that did not belong to you in the first place. You should participate as an active listener, and listen to narratives from POC, who are actually qualified to provide you advice on how to make things more equal. This “enlightenment journey” is not yours to take in anyway you see fit.

    We all make mistakes in life, and will continue to do so – but we never truly grow from them unless we face the facts, listen to constructive advice, apologize sincerely when we offend, and actively reflect in order to move onward.

  15. The “dreadlocked beauty above” does not have dreadlocks. The fact that you don’t even know the difference speaks very succinctly to what a misinformed, atrocious person you are.

  16. Hello Love! I would hate for you to take the following statement as a criticism, but I believe that your message is being taken the wrong way because of how and when you choose to wear your afro. I understand wanting to be self-aware and getting a new perspective on life–it makes life very interesting! However, wearing a costume wig does not really do our hair any justice…if you are really serious about this mission for self discovery, you should at least invest in real hair, or something that mimics the texture better. Also, it seems like you would not dare to show your wig off in professional situations. This is probably the most offensive of all. You see, as you have said before, we do not have to option to merely “take off the afro” when we want (although I would never want to! lol). Instead, we have to work with our hair if we do not want to subject ourselves to caustic chemicals or being forced to wear another person’s hair to look “cleaner” or “more professional” or “more acceptable” or “less threatening”. Again, if you are really serious about your mission, you should instead wear your afro 24/7 and learn to take care of it and style it and protect it like we must do all of the time–not just during convenient predominantly black social events. Well, this is all I have to say. I truly hope that you will read this and consider these points. You really do have a great idea, it is just really rough around the edges…You have the potential to polish it into a diamond! ~much love & peace, Metafiction.

  17. I am black with kinky curly hair. And my hair IS LONG and it IS SOFT. Just because its not pin straight doesn’t mean it’s not LONG nor SOFT. That cheap costume wig you are wearing does not represent black hair. Your ignorance and arrogance is showing.

  18. I LOVE djblackbetty’s comment. If you wanna get “real”, read it. If you want to run around sporting an afro wig by all means do it–just don’t pretend it’s some sort of political statement about the differences of race and culture. Appropriation (especially of something as superficial as hair) does not make you a champion for black people. or their hair.

  19. I think you should take a hint from India Arie… The harder you try to “be”, the more fantastical you become. You are who you are for a reason.

  20. You know… if people are always or frequently “misunderstanding” you, maybe the problem is you. Maybe it’s time to reconsider what your “real” message is and start paying attention to the effects of your actions.

    You may not have racist intentions, but you can still have racist effects. I recommend learning more about Native American mascots. There are really good parallels with what you’re doing here.

  21. “I have made it my business and duty to learn all I can about the culture from which I am borrowing, and its rich, empowering history.”

    Cool. You are “borrowing” from African-American culture…but what are you giving? Because I am here to tell you, you are not black, nor brown, thus you have NO RIGHT to that culture. I am white too, but let me tell you from the perspective of a middle-class white girl with a brown partner, learning about and appreciating another culture is about giving. And listening. And respecting the hell out of the people who, by the fact that they are of that culture, know more than you. It’s hard and selfless and it ends in you realising that you will never not be white, and by the very fact that you have white skin you will never NOT be privileged in this society. Learning to hula and mele does not mean you understand native Hawaiians. Learning to make kete or the tikanga of powhiri does not make you Maori. Being able to make sushi or wear a kimono does not mean you understand the Japanese. Learning some history and wearing a Halloween-style wig does not mean you understand African-Americans, not to mention the fact that it reeks of neo-colonial ignorance.

    I am sure you have a good heart, and don’t intend to hurt anyone, and I understand the “I am white and can’t help, please stop hating me” defense that arises when faced with these contentious issues. But that defence does not justify the fact that as a white American you are a part of a culture that is the majority who have historically oppressed coloured minorities and thus have a duty to make things right. This can be done with an afro and a guise as to “who you really are deep inside the misunderstood body”, which offends some people and not others..or it can be done without an afro and with a genuine heart and no pretense of who you are. Face it honey…YOU ARE WHITE. Now live with it.

  22. I have three points:

    I don’t see what is so wrong with you sporting a hairstyle that isn’t naturally your own. Hell, all kinds of women have hairstyles that aren’t natural.

    I know hair is a sensitive topic for some African American women, but maybe it is time to stop trying to have a hairstyle that isn’t natural (for whatever reason), and let your true hair free!

    Really, there are too many women that want to look the same.

  23. I am so sick and tierd of hearing ALL people getting offended by petty sh¡t! My husband is mixed (and bald) a am white. we both went out for halloween with afros. He was Jimi Hendrix and i was his girl. And WHAT? if ur mad ur not offended ur racist. so sick of hate and all races keeping the racist cyle going! Ps U dont see nobody bitching about “woman of color” wearing wigs that mimic other ethnic hair!

  24. not one person on this particular post has dreadlocks (unless the girl in the first pic has extensions over her locs, which does happen).

    I have many thoughts about what you’re doing, and i get it. i’m glad to see that in later posts you also get the horribly blind manner in which you’ve been parading your white privelege. Also, this post = look, I have Black friends. I also hate your bracelets.

    Good luck on your journey though.

  25. Why not wear your natural JEWFRO? Or your natural hair color. You straighten your hair and are not a natural blonde!

    Or, how about some goy running around with a big nose? Would you find that funny, too? Or would you be so quick to call the JDL?

    Just because we’ve been oppressed does not give us free reign to appropriate another’s culture or appearance.

  26. Wow! Why would anyone ever take offense to this? Some people are just too sensitive and haven’t been exposed to other parts of the world. It’s not a big deal. She likes the style of an afro and looks good doing it. White people in the disco era were rockin the fro, during a time of less acceptance. So why is it unacceptable now? I work in a back water town and I’m from the city. I’ve come to realize that there’s a difference between racism and ignorance. The blogger seems a tad bit ignorant but some people seem to be just shooting her down. She’s interested, curious and most definitely NOT “clueless”. If she was clueless she wouldn’t be doing her research. It’s good that she wants to learn about another culture.You should educate her because black culture is not common knowledge to everyone and some people don’t realise how much of a cry baby others can be. Education eliminates ignorance. I dated a mulatto girl for 3 years but she looked white. She was always mistaken for Italian. She would always wear weave cause although her hair was curly, she could never get length. I overheard some black girls talking shit about her saying they didn’t know why white girls we’re wearing weave nowadays. Little did they know she’s half Jamaican. Perception and sensitivity are the only crimes here and not the act. Like I said, I don’t think it even has anything to do with the bloggers ignorance to the culture. Some of you just sound bitter that a white woman is into the black culture and looks good doing it.

    • I’m sorry, perhaps you’re unaware. But when it comes to discussions about race and privilege… your opinion is automatically invalidated if you believe the usage of “mulatto” is still considered appropriate.

      Better yet, don’t offer your opinion on sensitive subjects you clearly don’t understand.

      • Djblackbetty, NOBODY’s opinion is invalidated on MY blog. Except for the opinion that others’ comments are somehow invalid. Please open your mind and your heart to the point of view from which others see. Not everyone chooses to be offended. Offense is in the eye of the beholder. Your upbringing and experiences and beliefs are not definitive of anything at all, except that they define you.

      • If you fail to see the prejudice inherent in referring to someone as “mulatto” perhaps your mind and heart aren’t as open to the point of view of others as you like to believe. It’s easy to point the finger at someone and dismiss their pain and experience as something that’s merely “in the eye of the beholder”…. particularly when you’ve never experienced vicious racial prejudice. But… speaking as a member of an oppressed group, I do not and will not take kindly to those who seek to minimize the experiences the historically oppressed, whether black, asian, hispanic, homosexual, transsexual, etc, etc… If you truly sympathized and understood the plight of minorities in modern day America, you wouldn’t dare say or do the things that you have. Definitive my opinion may not be, but indicative it definitely is…

        BTW… Your blog is PUBLIC. And in keeping with such distinction, I have the right to invalidate any opinion I see fit to invalidate.

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